Women love to be showered with attention. But, at the same time, they also do not like to respond to it always. We, women, usually intuit it if someone is attracted to us. We can sense the romantic vibe hovering around us with our’ sixth sense’, don’t we? Do you remember how effortlessly you dealt with a stranger who showed interest in you last time? But, wait! What if the person happens to be your boss? The situation gets a bit dicey then as you cannot randomly draw a conclusion. So, before dealing with the matter, how will you know that your boss is attracted to you romantically? Let us help you out with this. Find below 10 signs your boss likes you more than just an employee.
10 Signs Your Boss Likes You a Little Too Much
When your boss becomes attracted to you romantically, things turn complicated. Considering the professional setup, you need to handle it cautiously rather than shooting it directly at him. So, always start with careful observations of the situations. Try to figure out if he is a very effusive person who loves to gel with everyone. Also, consider your actions to ensure that they are not working as the triggers. But if none of these evaluations help you conclude, look for the following signs to understand if he has a crush on you or not:
1. He Checks You Out
Is your boss constantly checking you out? Well, if he is catching glimpses of you, do not worry much as he might just be watching if you are doing your job well. But if you see him staring at you with love and awe when you happen to be in his surroundings and not in a conversation with him, the chances are high that he is smitten by you. In particular, when you feel uncomfortable about him checking you out head to toe and looking deep into your eyes, he is attracted to you romantically.
2. He Showers You with Compliments
Bosses can appreciate their deserving employees for their work. There is nothing much to dig out of it, but there is undoubtedly something cooking behind it if it is otherwise. Suppose your boss’s appreciation becomes too often and turns into compliments beyond work issues, especially your appearance, personality, fashion sense, etc. In that case, it means that he has more than a friendly affinity for you. Consider throwback lines, such as ‘Your perfume smells great!’ ‘Your husband is a very lucky man.’, etc. as strong indicators as these are not what subordinates usually expect to hear from their bosses.
3. He Calls or Texts You Often
Does your boss call you out of nowhere? Or, do you keep getting personal messages and forwards from him? Then, be alert! It could be because he is falling for you and seeking your attention. Anyone having feelings for you will feel an urge to talk to you more often than usual. Even if he has nothing to say, he will find random excuses to start a conversation. This can be anything, including keeping a tab on your personal matters, enquiring too much about your personal life, sending ‘missing you’ notes, and so on. However, consider your boss relatively innocent if his calls are restricted to work issues or messages are limited to inspirational forwards only.
4. He Gets Too ‘Touchy’ with You
Watch out if your boss is trying to touch you unnecessarily now and then. A general shake hand or a formal hug is considered as exchanging pleasantries. But any physical contact beyond that need not be entertained. If he makes you uncomfortable with gestures like leaning in closer to help you out, holding your hand, patting on your back, touching your shoulder lightly, etc., be smart enough to understand that he is trying to get intimate with you.
5. He Bestows You with Opportunities
Getting preferential treatments from your boss can be alarming, especially if it is not coming out of respect, acknowledgment, and admiration. If he is as encouraging with everyone as he is with you, do not worry at all. But it is apparent favoritism when you are offered opportunities and perks that you do not deserve or expect. Your love-struck boss may give you better projects, allow you flexible hours, and even offer you increments or appraisals when you contributed not so much in terms of work.
6. He Gets You Gifts Frequently
If you are the only one among your colleagues who keeps getting unique gifts from your boss, it is not endearing. Watch out if he secretly places small tokens of appreciation on your desk or stocking up the pantry with your favorite items. He may even treat you with personal gifts and be discreet about it. All these are more than enough for you to be suspicious. There is, of course, nothing to worry about if everyone in the company is being motivated by him in the form of gifts.
7. He Becomes Too Helpful
A boss with a romantic agenda will always find an excuse to help his crush out to ensure a rosy job outlook and a great future for her. Observe if your boss is also making overblown promises or turning over-helpful to you. He can be ignorant about your mistakes and give you more mentoring time than your peers. But this seemingly exaggerated goodness may be a sign that you mean a little too much to him. Try to get a realistic sense of his behavior so that it does not indicate in any way that you are also reciprocating his feelings.
8. He Invites You for Dinner/Drinks
Beware of your boss if he tries to spend private time with you by regularly scheduling late-night meetings or asking you out for coffee, drinks, or even dinner. Though occasional stay-back after office hours for legitimate joint projects or after-work coffee to compensate for late hours is perfectly fine, any pattern past this is not typical at all. He may want to build a personal relationship with you while helping you ‘move up the corporate ladder’. So, do not encourage such actions that may force you to be singled out unnecessarily beyond professional scopes.
9. He Flirts with You Constantly
If you find your boss sustaining eye contact with you longer than usual or repeatedly sending flirtatious messages at late hours, he is flirting with you. Check his body language and be sure if it is playful or sensual. You may also notice some subtle signs of flirting, such as new hairstyles, better outfits, cleaner shoes, use of more cologne, and so on. Remember that unless he is a naturally flirtatious person, he will always maintain professional boundaries with his subordinates.
10. He Tries to Be Too Personal with You
When your boss crushes on you, you will find him becoming too personal with you. He will also share lots of confidential information with you that he would never share with any of your co-workers. It can certainly happen because he trusts you as an employee. But on the other way, it may also help him gain your trust and deepen the relationship with you. In addition, he may share lots of inside jokes with you and laugh in an overly effusive way while paling around with you.
Never ignore your gut instincts as these will cause sheer discomfort or irritation when something is awkward between you and someone else (your boss, in this case). If you are not fine with the situation, the chances are high that your gut feeling is right.
The given signs your boss likes you are strictly based on general considerations. Not all bosses will necessarily be like this. If your boss is attracted to you, there is nothing wrong with it, provided he is single. It is entirely up to you how you want to respond to it. If you are single and feel the same way about him, there is no harm in responding to his moves. But if your boss is married or already in a relationship with someone else, it will be better for you to stay off this whole scene as it will turn out to be nothing but a big fiasco in the end.
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Women can sense the romantic vibe hovering around them with their sixth sense. But the situation gets dicey when their bosses get attracted to them romantically. Considering the professional setup, it is important to proceed cautiously rather than shooting it directly at the boss. You can start with careful observations of the situations. Try to figure out if your boss is a very effusive person or your own actions are working as the triggers. But if no evaluation helps you come to the conclusion, you may look for the general signs to understand if he really has a crush on you or not. Typically, your love-struck boss will check you out, shower you with compliments, call or text you often, get too touchy with you, bestow you with opportunities, get you gifts frequently, become to helpful to you, invite you for dinner or drinks, flirt with you constantly, try to be too personal with you, and so on. Never ignore your gut instincts also as these will cause sheer discomfort or irritation when something is awkward between you and him.